What a long week! It's funny how being on vacation can be more tiring than going to work. At least from what I remember about work. To me being around a bunch of people can be tiring. Especially children. I am not a fan. I prefer interacting with people I can reason with and relate to. Children don't have that. I know we're supposed to be good examples, and help them learn those skills as they grow. But, when I don't get to see them that often, and have no real input as to how they can gain these skills, it makes it tough to deal with. It's odd to me that people who grew up in the same exact household can decide to parent in so many different ways. Well, I guess that is if they “decide” to parent. It has become increasingly clear to me over the past week that not everyone sees “parenting” as an activity that is to be done. Some people seem to think that once the child has arrived, that is enough, and nature shall take it's course. Hence they do not choose to “parent.” I had noticed this phenomenon before, but after this week it is very apparent. In a way I feel bad for people who've had parenthood thrust upon them. They do not seem to feel like they made the choice. Although we all know that they did in fact make the choice that caused the child. Somehow that doesn't seem to equate in everyone's mind. They seem to feel that parenthood is something that happened to them, instead of a choice they made. And it is sad. Because from what I can tell, the individuals deciding to be parents have much better offspring.
The offspring, after all, is the whole point isn't it? Once you bring someone in, it becomes your responsibility to make sure that individual becomes a decent human being. I feel so bad for the children growing up in the situation where their parent(s) see them as a nuisance. Not a loving gift that they've chosen, but a burden they have to now deal with. What chance does a child like that have? It seems like none, unless someone else gets involved. And it is also starting to seem that this phenomenon is perpetuating. The child who is grown out of a “burden” situation, then has a child of their own, and naturally sees their child as a burden, since that's what they were shown. I know the cycle can be broken. I know, according to my dad's stories, that he was not raised in a very loving household. But he chose to be loving. He did not want my sister and I to feel the way that he did growing up, so we were raised with a lot of love. He had to make it up. He wasn't shown a great amount of fatherly skills growing up, but he broke the cycle. I'm sure he didn't always know what to do, hell, who does? But we always knew we were loved and wanted. That's another big one, WANTED. My sister and I were chosen and desired. And I do understand that if my sister were able to become a parent, we would also have different parenting styles. However, I do not think they would be totally different. From my observations this past week not all women are natural nurturers. I guess I knew that one too, but alas, after this week, it is much more apparent. Some people just seem incapable of seeing the bigger picture.
The bigger picture, after all, is the whole point isn't it? You're not raising a 2 year old, you're raising a future person. You're raising someone that is going to be sharing this planet with us. Sharing our air and our roadways. I honestly feel if more people felt this way the whole world could change. People seem to get so caught up in their own crap that they fail to see what is really going on. What is really happening to them. And what they are really doing to this other individual. Just because children don't come with a manual, isn't an excuse to do to them whatever the f*ck you'd like. It seems to me like you would naturally want to speak to children nicely, and not cuss around them. But I have seen situations where the parent(s) are actually calling their children names. Vulgar names. I don't understand how doing that becomes a thing. And, over and over, I just keep thinking it has to do with the parent not grasping the significance of what is actually going on. And, that leads me to the idea that if they had this awareness before hand, they probably would have abstained or used protection. Hence, once again, perpetuating. It's sad. Awareness seems to be something that very few hold dear. Yet, it is the only thing that will break the cycle. There isn't a way to regulate it. There is no magic button or pill. I think if you were to ask most dog owners who they like better, people or dogs, the overwhelming answer would be dogs. Maybe people in general would say dogs. And that seems to be a huge part of the problem. When we're living in a world where people don't like people, how could they think of making a good person?
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