Connecting The Connections

      Happy Zero Tasking Day! It’s also Look For Circles Day, Deviled Egg Day, Orphan Sunday, and Ohio Day. Ohio Day!? Give me a break, I’m not touching that one. Looking for circles!? I’m not dealing with that one either. Now it just seems like they’re making shit up. Orphan Sunday! I can get behind that one. When we have it so good, it can be tough to remember that there are people who wish they had families to be with. I feel for them. That’s one of the things I’m proudest of, is being in the life of the person I call Daughter. I always knew I didn’t want children, and thought that if that ever changed, I would want to take care of someone who already existed, as opposed to bringing another person in. And, I’ve done that. I know she isn’t an orphan, but she was someone with only one parent, and I stepped in to help, and it has made my life immeasurably better for it. Every time I see people on TV complaining about their fertility woes, and how much money they’ve wasted trying to conceive “naturally,” I wonder why they don’t adopt. There are people on this planet who need others, and it seems like people are selfishly trying to bring other people in, instead of helping the ones who are already here. I feel if you want to be a parent, it shouldn’t really matter if it’s biologically “your” child. I happen to think the love can be deeper when it’s a love you chose. It’s easy to love a biological child, there’s an almost automatic feeling of love for your own progeny. But, loving someone just because you do, is, or at least can be, more impactful. There isn’t a “reason” for it. It just is. Plus, loving someone “just because,” creates a dynamic that keeps you from seeing the individual as a mini-you, or a mini-your partner. You don’t see your shortfalls, you only see them for who they are, not some amalgamation of genes and behaviors you don’t quite understand.

     Wow, that took a turn. Obviously, I feel strongly about it. I also have to make a mention of Deviled Egg Day. This was a weird one. I have some pickled eggs in the fridge. They probably should have been eaten already, but there are still a few left. This morning, at breakfast, I said to my wife that I thought I’d make some deviled eggs with the pickled eggs this afternoon. Then, when I was getting ready to write this, and saw it was National Deviled Egg Day I almost had a conniption! Those are the little jolts of energy that keep me going! It may sound silly, but when things like that happen, I really do feel like there has been a divine interjection. I don’t normally write on Sunday, but I’ve got to get these in somehow. And, the randomness that I happen to be doing this today, after having been prepared to make deviled eggs, and then find out it’s deviled egg day, is more than my brain is willing to conceive as random! Even if I’m reading into it, it still makes me feel good to feel this way. The thought that the divine energy could be interacting with me keeps me motivated. And, I don’t care to stop feeling that way. And, I am happy to say, that the more I feel this way, the more it continues to happen. And that is also more than my brain can conceive as random. I honestly feel that people keep themselves from feeling this way often. Talk ourselves out of the idea that when we feel this divine intervention, it’s true! I say why not own it!? Even if it’s something as silly as National Deviled Egg Day! It fills me with joy, and has me looking forward to the next little thing that makes me feel this way. Do yourself a favor, the next time you have the feeling that something that happens makes you feel like the Universe is listening to you, claim it! You may not be wrong!

     Like, for example, our next little trip: Zero Tasking Day! I also feel strongly about it. And, the fact that it came up today, on a day when I normally don’t do any tasks, gives me the chills. I don’t really consider this a task, although it kind of is. 2 out of the 5 directly relate to my life, on a day I shouldn’t probably even have been doing this! Outrageous! I take the idea of a day of rest very seriously. I figured, since I was just going to be sitting around watching football anyway, there’d be no harm in getting this done while the game is on. It’s only slightly more involved than just sitting here. Although, it is half time now, and I don’t even have any idea what the score is. It is surprisingly not distracting me. Whereas, when it’s a show with a plot, and dialogue, I can get easily distracted. I’m a little bummed that I’m not really interacting with my wife while I do this. But, it’s only for an hour, and she’s here with me, so it’s kind of like we’re spending time together, just quietly. Working a regular job has us trying to figure out all kinds of different ways to get the things done that need done, in a new way. Keeping a day of rest, when you only have 2 spare days, makes it a little tougher. Before, I was able to get all kinds of things done during the week. That is more complicated now. But, I love it. I’m having fun, and getting paid, to help people. Kind of like what I was writing in the beginning, I’m taking care of people who need taken care of. I’m getting to use all of my skill sets to help people have a better life! You can’t beat that! I feel useful! And, most of all, like I was mentioning a little bit earlier, I feel connected! I literally feel like my life is being tailored for me. I wish we could all feel that way.