To Say, Or Not To Say

      Well, perhaps I should have kept the Disneyland story for this week. An uneventful week has led me to sit here staring at a blank screen again. But, as I thought, Disneyland is no longer fresh enough in my mind to extrapolate much from it. The details are fading. I’m not sure if waiting until today would have made any difference. It seemed like we picked the ideal day to go. It was hot, unusually hot for October, but not too hot. I only found myself sweating a couple of times, but that was only when we were in direct sun for an extended period of time. Even then, I attribute it mostly to wearing my hat. I definitely didn’t want my bald head getting direct sun exposure. The crowd wasn’t bad either. I mean, walking around, it seemed kind of crowded, but we didn’t have to wait very long for any of the rides. I think 30 minutes was the longest we waited for anything, and we got on everything. Well, everything we wanted to. Space Mountain was closed, so that doesn’t count. Matterhorn closed just as we were about to get in line, which was kind of a bummer, but I have no feeling of missing out. We actually had some good food. I’m not sure that theme parks are really known for their “good” food, but we did have some delicious bites. We got some junk too, but I was impressed with the food we got in Star Wars land. The over-all experience wasn’t that bad, it just seemed to have lost its magic for me. Every ride we got on, I was overwhelmed by how much I thought everything was for children. I know it’s for children, but it really struck me as to how much it is for children. I often found myself wondering: “Why would adults want to do this?” There was a lot of eye-candy. But at the same time, spandex is not a right! Look in a mirror!

     Okay, sorry, that may have come off kind of rude. But seriously, just because you can put it on, doesn’t mean you should wear it. Speaking of being rude, I’m not sure if I should change the names of my next bit. I’m still on the fence as to whether I’m telling too much, at certain times. Part of me feels that I’m not doing any harm, but the other part of me feels that people might not want their drama posted online. And then yet another part of me feels that there is probably no actual way that anyone who’s involved will ever see this. So here I sit, wondering if it even matters who it’s actually about. After some thought, and a few deleted sentences, I realized the story won’t make sense without the truth. The Calvin’s singer is dating a younger woman. They seem very happy. I like them both quite a bit. They’ve been dating for a while. There’s a 20-year age gap. They don’t seem to mind, so it’s none of my business. However, she, being much younger, still has time for, and is probably going to want, marriage and children. He is not. They’ve discussed it, I’m certain he’s not leading her on. I am not sure, however, that she’s being completely honest with herself. Sometimes a person can fool themselves into thinking they’re fine without what they really want. In my experience that often does not go well. At the party a couple of weeks ago, some of us were kind of talking about Halloween. I’m not really sure what she was talking about, but all of a sudden, she asked my wife and I to not let the singer cancel band practice for Halloween. I thought it wouldn’t happen because we have a gig on the 3^rd. We need to practice. However, this week he said he wants to cancel! So now I’m stuck in a situation where I don’t know what to do.

     My loyalty is to him. If he doesn’t want practice, so be it. She may have been drunk. I think she has this whole trick-or-treat thing going on with her nieces. And I think maybe she didn’t want him to feel obligated, since it’s not really his thing. I think he’s probably just trying to be supportive, and spend time with her. So, I don’t think there’s any true “drama” going on, it’s just a weird thing. Now I don’t know if I should tell him what she said, or stay the hell out of it. Part of me feels that if he “plays along” too much, she might get the wrong idea. He is a nice guy. It’s none of my business. She was probably just trying to give him an out, even though she probably would like him to be there. I don’t know. I’m not saying anything. This is part of the problem with having friends, not getting entangled in each other’s drama. It seems like too often it’s complicated not to get drawn in. Especially when you’re a curious person like me. Speaking of friends, this weekend we’re going to a different friend’s Halloween party. We got invited to two. One at the home of someone we just recently met, and one at the home of a family that we go camping with. The first one is going to be a punk rock show, with the lady from Whatever68 Radio. I thought that would be fun. Hear some live music and get to mingle with other people from the scene. But then, the wife of the family friends texted my wife specifically, and asked if we would come. That kind of sealed the deal. We’ve never accepted an invite to any event held by our camping friends, other than camping. The fact that she reached out personally, as opposed to a Facebook invite, made it seem more touching, like perhaps they really would like us to come. This ought to be an adventure.